I told him I wanted a deeper commitment (i.e., boyfriend/girlfriend or marriage) and he got weird…should I call him?

Short Answer: Yes.

(Note…you should not be monogamous with a man until they give you a commitment…keep your options open!!! Don’t ask him for more until it has been at least 6 months of open dating. This means that you need to be seeing OTHER people. If he asks you not to see anyone else, tell him you will, but only if you are both monogamous and after he gives you the “title you want.” If it hasn’t been at least 6 months yet, you should not prod him for a deeper commitment because he is still getting to know you.)

Some men are more fearful than others because of family traumas or past heartbreaks so give him time to trust you. If you have become faithful to him because of your values or because you feel guilty seeing other guys at least make him feel as though you aren’t too available. Don’t hang out with him every weekend. Have a regular girl’s night out or get passionate about a hobby. He shouldn’t expect you to be there for his every whim if he hasn’t committed to you.

If you are seeing other people DON’T tell him about them to make him jealous. This will turn him off and make him think of you as a slut. Keep him on his toes and don’t cut off your options until he has committed to you.

If when you ask him for a deeper commitment after 6 months he says “no” then stick it out for another 6 months and ask again. If he still says “no” after 1 year you need to break it off.

I go into greater detail about this subject in my audio book “Tiffany Epiphany, The Modern Woman’s Guide to Marriage.” Download it into your iPod here.