We just met and exchanged numbers; I haven’t heard from him…should I call him?

First and foremost you need to wait at least 3 days and no more than 7 days to see if he calls you first. If it has been more than 7 days read on…

Before you call you need to ask yourself this question: Do I really want a guy who isn’t interested enough to call me first?

Yes I know what you’re thinking. You are probably justifying it by saying…What if he lost my number? What if he got hit by a bus, or what if he’s tried to call me but couldn’t get through and then thought I wasn’t interested so he threw my number away and is waiting for me to call him…

Yes, the mind will always give you the answers you need to hear in order for you to get what you think you want. (read that sentence again)

Translation: Once you want something deep in your heart, your mind will stop at nothing to give it to you. That’s why we become obsessed with things almost immediately. Like a Bebe shirt at half price or a little puppy in the window. We dream about it, talk about it; make up little stories in our minds to convince ourselves that we need that extra scoop of ice cream.

The truth is…you want to call him! If you didn’t you wouldn’t be reading this blog. But, before you grab your phone and start dialing him up you need to really think about your end goal. You like this guy…but what is it about him that you like? Can you possibly find these qualities in someone else who will actually call you back? You deserve to have the type of man who will give you EVERYTHING your heart desires. But first…you need to make sure you know exactly what it is that your heart desires.

You can’t want to be a size 0 and also want to eat an entire bag of potato chips. (Well you can want both but unfortunately back here in the real world you must make a decision about which one you want the most) If you never decide on what it is that YOU truly want, then you will get a huge pile of slop. Your wants will clash together and cancel each other out so that you end up with a whole lot of nothing.

So again I’ll ask you…Do you want to pursue a guy who isn’t interested enough to call you first?

If you said yes then call him J

I go into greater detail about this subject in my audio book “Tiffany Epiphany, The Modern Woman’s Guide to Marriage.” Download it into your iPod here.