We’ve been seeing each other for more than 2 months and I’m always the one to call…should I call him?

Okay it sounds like you need a little reality check here. You need to ask yourself the following (2) questions:

1. Do I want a guy in my life that cares enough about me to initiate contact on a regular basis?

2. After you answer that question you need to ask yourself…Is my guy initiating contact on a regular basis?

Now the most important answer is for the first question asked. If you said NO then go ahead and keep calling him. But, if deep down inside you still aren’t happy, chances are that the real answer should have been YES.

If you answered YES to the first question and NO to the second then you should start opening up your options to other potential suitors and slow down on the phone calls to Mr. Clueless.

It is all about you when it comes to finding Mr. Right. Only YOU can determine what a guy needs to do in order to meet YOUR needs. Your definition of Mr. Right may differ drastically with my definition of a soul mate and that is okay because I won’t have to live with your Mr. Right and you won’t have to live with mine. Make sure you identify your list of standards (write them down if you have to) so that you don’t sell yourself short.

REALITY CHECK:

Let’s pretend you are looking for your dream job. You want to be a cartoonist for Walt Disney. Would you get a job at K-Mart as a cashier in the hopes that you could work your way up the corporate ladder in order to realize your dream of becoming an artist at Disney World?

Of course not!!!

So why then, would you settle for a man who does not meet your standards for Mr. Right in the hopes that someday he might magically transform into your prince charming? Please be honest with yourself honey. If you start settling now you are in for a very sad and lonely ride. You deserve to be happy. There is someone special out there for you. If you keep wasting your time with guys who aren’t in your league and can’t or won’t fit into your mold for an ideal mate, then you will miss your opportunity to find the man destined for you. Please take a moment and make a list of all the qualities you want in a man and keep it with you at all times. If your guy isn’t meeting them, you need to keep looking...

I go into greater detail about this subject in my audio book “Tiffany Epiphany, The Modern Woman’s Guide to Marriage.” Download it into your iPod here.